Often times, I struggle to keep my ego in check. By ego, I mean that part of it which grows out like cancer, excessive and sudden outgrowth of I‘m! or I did it! Let me give you an example —
My family follows the teachings of a spiritual guru — Sri Sri Ravi Shankar. You might know about him by his magic like conflict resolution, stopping more than 50 years of civil war in Columbia in 3 days. He is more than just a mediator. He is a peacemaker. He has enabled people to live with themselves more fully, more happily, through his astounding discourses of ancient Upanishads and workshops in which a breathing technique called Sudarshan Kriya, is taught. Neither he, nor his workforce of teachers all around the world divide and treat people on the basis of their gender, race, caste or sexual orientation. He is all inclusive. What has anything of this to do with my outbursts of ego in the form of anger? Let’s see —
Whenever I tend to not take care of my food habits, or sleep habits or something of that sort (which Sri Sri has at some point of time talked about — the importance of), my mother busts me about it. At that point of time my automatic reaction comes on the lines of —
Mother, you do not see the hundreds of things that I do do right, you pick on the one things that I go wrong at sometimes.
Aaaaaeeee! *Buzzer*. Wrong move. This is where my ego pops out of the bed and gets ready to fight. Many a times, in the moments like these I remember the teachings quickly — I smile and control the anger that builds from almost nothing to everything in a matter of microseconds (faster than most cars’ acceleration). But that becomes a viscous loop —
Mother, you do not see the thousands of times I’m able to control my anger which rises unreasonably when you tell me about something that I do/did wrong, but you see the one thing that I do wrong!
This is the ego in action. Remedy? Ah! Nothing but to keep repeating the bold line in the above hypothetical angered argument. On top of that, ensure that the italics and underlined in the above sentence do not have any door to come out from — meaning to not give her or me a chance to find a slip — which in turn means getting up early, following routine, eating healthy, not getting irritated. It’s a tough job. It itself needs practice. Everything in the world needs practice. Ah! Practice!
This is the only remedy because it is very difficult sometimes for people to understand you. I mean only if you could show the time based analyses of what was thought in your mind to another person. But you can’t. So beware!